Why Yes I Am ||All About That Bass||
I know you’ve heard it. It’s currently playing on all the radio stations, filling your speakers with a catchy fifties pop sounding tune making you want to mash potato it in the drivers seat. It’s one of those songs that makes you want to grab all your girlfriends and dance around your room with hairbrush microphones. It’s that cliché, scream at the top of your lungs, send a couple dozen snap chat lip-synching sessions and pretend you can actually do the same vocal note she can in the shower.
Except, not everyone feels that way. In fact, Meghan Trainors “All About that Bass” has received a lot of flak for apparently “shaming thin women”. This “flak” I'm assuming comes from lyrics like, “Yeah it's pretty clear, I ain't no size two but I can shake it, shake it like I'm supposed to do” “You know I won't be no stick-figure, silicone Barbie doll” and (rephrased by me) “Go and tell them skinny girls she’s bringing booty back.” But then she goes to say right after that line “No, I'm just playing I know you think you're fat, but I'm here to tell you that, Every inch of you is perfect from the bottom to the top.”
It's funny because we live in a world that has always celebrated and even glorified "skinny" yet the one time curvy is celebrated, there's an offense taken. My seemingly bitter response to this is and I'm not intending to point fingers or create an us/we situation but "skinny" girls or "smaller" girls run this world already...when is it going to become about all women, all sizes?
The issue I believe this song points out is that we as women have a horrible tendency to shame our own bodies and other women too. We have been conditioned since little girls that resembling Barbie dolls with thigh gaps AND thin waists AND large busts is how we’re “supposed to look”. We read magazines on how to lose weight, how to get the best “beach body” and how to look sexy with the latest diet trend.
We are surrounded by the message that our bodies are never enough.
All throughout elementary, middle and high school I was always taller or bigger than most of my friends. I don’t ever remember being a single digit size in anything. I was the thick giant; at least that’s how I viewed myself. And that negative view of my physical self translated into being so internally insecure that I lost myself as a person. I’ve never had a thigh gap; my thighs will probably forever touch. My arms have always had that little extra underneath that my brother likes to jiggle and crack up laughing at and my stomach pooches just a little bit. I have a long torso and longer legs. Even recently in the midst of this year my biggest fear is wearing shorts because I feel like my legs are screaming LOOK AT ME AND ALL MY THICKNESS. In fact, in the media my body type is just barely being accepted and borderline becoming “in”. Just recently have we been able to see “plus size models” being celebrated even though the view of what is considered “plus size” is still really messed up, we’re making baby strides.
Megan Trainors All About that Bass is the song that finally allows women of all sizes feel like they can shake it shake it despite all that may be actually shaking. All About that Bass is one of those songs where I can release a sigh of finally, I am slowly being accepted by a world who tells me I need to chip away at this temple until it’s thin and appealing. But mostly it makes you want to say, forget their acceptance. Forget the need to be loved for something I’m not. Forget your diets and beach body because I LOVE BAGELS AND MYSELF! I love every winding road, straight line, and valley or mountain landscape on this body of mine.
I’m not going to get into the slightly feminist rant that we shouldn’t “have” to shake anything in order to get attention from the male gender or the aspect of language that could have totally been avoided in the lyrics. I’m writing this blog because All About that Bass is a song I get to note down as an aspect of progress for this body love journey of mine.
Sure, I may not be the biggest girl out there but I’m also not the smallest. I still don’t have a thigh gap; I still remember being made fun of by boys for being “bigger” than other girls in middle school. I would still be considered “plus size” by the media and I still have at some point felt like I was grotesque and unlovable and a lot of women and men have felt the same. I am all about that Bass because it’s been a long time coming for me to see this body, these curves, and this non-thigh gap as beautiful. Because sometimes I feel guilty for not dieting or being super conscious about my exercise lifestyle and it’s so hard to be “thin” when things like bread and coffee with some good flavor exist.
You see as women of faith in this generation, when we doubt the unmistakable beauty we each posses we are reminded of Psalm 139:14 that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made”. The thing is … we already know this, we know that we are handcrafted individually by the creator of this universe from every freckle to every dimple to every curve (or lack there of). We know this, but being bombarded with so many guidelines on how to or not to look or not being loved by a certain boy because of how we look, sometimes makes us forget. I’m not comparing All About that Bass to scripture by any means but we can respond to being fearfully and wonderfully made with a confident declaration that we “know it full well” while we dance with our thinness and thickness and shake to the freedom of loving ourselves and loving ourselves well. Because this beauty baby is something you possess in the essence of your soul, the strength in your shoulders and the most glorious curve on your face laced with your lips.
I am absolutely, unashamed and proudly All About that Bass because at last we are able to hold these bodies closer no matter how they look and love them better than anyone else could even dare. Then when someone does come along and say to us, “Yes indeed baby, every inch of you is perfect, from the bottom to the top” instead of denying it or shying away from it (which we have a horrible tendency to do and it’s not cute) we can instead with a sassy, confident and humble hair flip say, “I know.”
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